Married life

In the name of Allah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful.

It has been 16 days since we've been married.

We are one those couples who had to experience the sweet and bitter of long-distance marriage.

It's hard but we keep on praying to Allah to strengthen our hearts and bless this marriage.

Oh, Allah. Please fill our marriage with sakinah, mawaddah wa rahmah.

There's a lot to update but I've already started working and it has been really busy for me.

InshaAllah, will update when I have the time.

InshaAllah.. :)

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Are you ready?

In the name of Allah, The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

One of my friends once asked me how do I feel about getting married.

How do I know whether I am ready or not to carry the responsibility of being a wife?

And her last question was, when will it be her turn?

To her first two questions I honestly answered that up until today I don't know whether I am ready or not to be a wife. I am really nervous and also scared at the same time. The idea of marrying someone that I just know is really terrifying.

I only met my fiance 3 times throughout this 5 months we've been engaged and all 3 times are in the presence of my parents.

I am scared but I keep on praying to Allah that if he is destined to be my husband, if he is the one He has chosen for me, please guide me, please give me strength and please give me peace in my heart to accept him. Up until today, despite of all my uneasiness and reluctance, Allah has so far made all my wedding plans easy.. inshaAllah..

The truth is that in life you can never be ready. But eventhough you can't be ready, but you can surely be prepared.

To her other question, some of us might have also been wondering about the same thing. When will it be my turn?

To my friend I answered, do not become too focused on wondering when will it be your turn, because the only one who knows that answer is Allah alone. Keep on praying for the best and always remember that good things take time. I always tell myself that when Allah has seen that you are ready, He will surely send you the right person right away. But if you feel like you are ready but the right person has still yet to surface, perhaps that person is still in the process of tarbiyyah so that he/she can be the best spouse for you, in this life and in jannah.

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Invitation Card

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim..

It has been quite some time since I last post in here..
Been busy working. My laptop has been peacefully resting in my closet for the past 1 month. I hope one day when I have the time to turn in on, it will still be functioning.

Today, my maid of honour whom I'm sharing a room with in the quarters of my workplace offered to help me design my own wedding invitation card.

Well, I have to tell you that, I am not very good at designing things digitally, watching her work her magic makes me feel really amazed.

Why do I choose to design my own invitation card?

Well, the truth is I don't really mind if the card is not expensive. What matters most to me is that the card can be useful. Because after the date of my wedding passed, people would be throwing it away anyway. Why waste on something that other people would throw away?

However, the other day, my mother and I went to a local shop in our housing area. This shop is owned by the daughter of one of my mom's friends. So mom suggested for me to get my cards printed in her shop to help her business.

The shop owner told me that if I design my own card, I could get a nice card according to my taste and it would be cheaper, just around 60 cent per piece. A full coloured card. And since the shop is very near to my house, it will also cut the cost for delivery or transportation.

So, today the design for my invitation card has already finished. And I love it!
I totally couldn't have imagined that I could get a card based on the design that I wanted, until today.
I've been surfing the internet dozen of times searching for the one that I like and couldn't be satisfied.
But now, I am very happy to have a card with the design that I like at a cheaper cost.

A little sneak peak of the design... =)

Wedding date revised??

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...

Just got back from induction program for 4 days and 3 nights. pheww..

I got the hospital that I applied for, Alhamdulillah..

But after I got the letter, I realised that my wedding date might clash with the duration of my tag of the 2nd posting.

FIY, for housemen working in government hospitals in Malaysia we need to undergo 2 weeks of tagging..

It's not that I can't apply for leave during that date. It will be difficult but it can be done, inshaAllah..

My main problem is that, none of my friends would be able to attend my wedding if that happens! Because they would also be doing their tagging rotation. And giving excuse such as wanting to attend a friend's wedding wouldn't be such a strong one to put in into the application form, would it?

Erghh.. I don't know what to do right now..

Have to wait until monday so that I could confirm the rotation schedule and then I would have to call to adjust the booking date of the hall..

Pray that everything would be at ease, InshaAllah..

Update preparation

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim..

Saje nk update preparation..

Setakat ni apa yang saya dah setelkan utk majlis saya nanti:-

1) Date (mmg dah lama set)
2) Dewan (deposit payed. to pay full payment one month before the event)
3) Catering (discussed with the owner who is a friend of my mum. no payment has been done yet. to discuss in detail 2 months before the event)
5) Baju untuk nikah (dalam pakej andaman, sekali dengan pelamin. dah ukur. to pay full deposit)
6) bilik pengantin (perabot, cadar, langsir dah beli.. tinggal nnt nk hias sikit2 je. letak2 bunga2 ke..)
7) baju bertandang (baru jek beli kain, belum tempah lagi. Currently, takde idea nk buat design baju ape. Tp takpe sbb kenduri sebelah lelaki lambat sikit. Kain warna peach atas pilihan bakal mak mentua. Loving the colour!)
8) photographer (dah book orangnye. Tinggal nak bayar deposit untuk confirmation.)

Perkara-perkara yang belum diselesaikan:

1) Dokumen-dokumen nikah.. (tunggu pihak lelaki selesaikan urusan dia dulu)
2) Kad jemputan (belum tempah pun lagi.. huhuhu.. mum and sis dah bising2 suruh tempah cepat2)
3) Doorgift semasa majlis (pening nk fikir.. tambah pening bila kita yang kena uruskan tapi orang lain pun ada idea dia jugak~)
4) Tempat nak akad nikah.. rumah ke masjid? masing-masing ade pros and cons dia.. untuk majlis akad nikah, ingat nak sewa bantal nikah dengan bridal shop je.. Tp my mum nk guna tok punya.. (risau sbb elok lg ke bantalnye???). Tak perlu mic untuk akad nnt.. buat menambah nervous bakal suami jek.. kalau kat rumah, nak pelamin ke? Tp hanya utk akad nikah je rasa cam tak berbaloi je..

Apa lagi ye..? Rasa macam banyak lagi benda yang belum selesai..

p/s: sorang-sorang je plan wedding sendiri..
p/p/s: only a few months left for preparation and I'm starting work soon so I don't know how I'm going to continue my preparation afterwards. Have to make use of any holidays that I earn.

Wedding theme: Purple and white

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...

Never thought that it would finally come to this, me writing about my wedding theme.

Always considered this blog as a source for me to share other things about my wedding, things that are more related to my goal of having a modest wedding.

But I guess, after days of having nothing to update, it has finally come to....

discussing my wedding theme!

The idea of having a purple and white wedding theme actually came to me one fine day, after trying on the wedding veil I'm borrowing from my sister's friend, who is also my senior in university. I have adored her solemnization veil and when I've decided to get married, I wanted to borrow it.

Her veil was ivory white with ivory lace and sewed on the lace are white pearls and some pinkish, purplish beads. To tell you honestly, the beads look more pinkish than purplish, but I knew that my fiance wouldn't want to wear pink on his wedding day, and I thought purple might suit too.

Why white and purple?





It is because, my plan is to wear only just one dress for my wedding day. Most brides would wear at least two dresses; one at solemnisation, and another one at the reception.

To save budget, I planned to wear the same attire for that day. I mean why not?

If you consider the cost, a typical modern baju kurung for solenization would cost at least rm 200. And this is only to be worn for a couple of hours. And after that, if you rent a pair of wedding attire from a boutique, the cheapest would be around rm 600 for both the bride and groom. If you are having one tailored, the cost would be much higher including the fabric and tailoring cost. That is however, also depends on the type of fabric that you've chosen and how elaborate you want your dress to be.

One would say, "Hey, it's your wedding day! What's wrong with spending a little more?"

Well, I would say that it is very impractical to pay such a big amount on a dress that you would only wear once and only for a couple of hours. Yes, you could rent it out. But, if you had it tailored the chances that someone would rent your dress is pretty low because they can't alter it. And a bridal boutique owner had once told me about customers wanting to sell to them their wedding dress. She said that most of the time it's quite difficult for them to accept because the fabrics used are sometimes not up to their standards. Unless you've bought the real expensive fabrics, then you might as well be able to rent it out or sell it to a boutique.

For sentimental value? Well, we've gonna have pictures and videos of the big day right? For me, that's enough as proof that I've once worn a wedding dress, or getting married for that matter!

Well, it's up to you to decide what you're going to do with your money. But, in the Al-Quran, Allah has said; The squanderers were ever brothers of the devils.." (Al'Israa':27) (Reminds me of a title of a movie: The Devil wears Prada)

Back to my wedding theme..

Hehe.. so I would really like to wear white or off-white on my wedding day, and I think there's nothing wrong of wearing white to the reception as well. There are other brides who've done that, and the westerners wear the same dress to their reception too. But to add some colour, I chose purple because you know, I love pink because I look good in pink but to respect the wish of my future husband, purple is the closest that I can get to pink! ^^,

And, my future husband would wear a baju melayu for the solemnisation and also the reception. Call me weird, but I like it much better for him to wear baju melayu instead of the fancy wedding attire that most bridegroom wear. And he prefers it too! ^^, I hope he would wear a purple sampin to match my dress. (I haven't discuss with him yet)

I think that's it for now about my wedding theme. There are other stories to share, and I'll update later about the theme on his side..

In the meantime, plan wisely my fellow bride-to-be! ^^,

Awas sikap suka bermegah, suka dipuji dan, awas dalam memberi pujian!

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...

Post kali ini mungkin nampak seperti kurang berkaitan dengan persiapan untuk melangsungkan perkahwinan. Bagi yang merasakan begitu, anda silap!

Sudah menjadi ikut-ikutan masyarakat kita sekarang apabila mengadakan majlis perkahwinan hatta majlis pertunangan, dilaksanakan dengan tujuan untuk menunjuk-nunjuk. Majlis diadakan sebesar-besar dan semewah-mewah mungkin supaya tetamu yang hadir akan berasa kagum dan lantas memberi puji-pujian kepada tuan rumah.

Bagi yang benar-benar ingin mendapatkan redha Allah dalam melaksanakan perkahwinan, pasti sangat-sangat mengambil berat perkara ini dan pasti akan meneliti sedalam mungkin niat di hati dalam melaksanakan persiapan untuk berkahwin.

Tanya pada iman, adakah walimah yang ingin dilaksanakan untuk melaksanakan sunnah dan mendapatkan redha Allah, atau ingin bermegah-megah menunjukkan kekayaan dan kecantikan?

Astaghfirullah... Astaghfirullah.. Astagfirullah..

Saya berlindung dengan kekuasaan Allah dan rahmatNya supaya saya diberi kekuatan yang terus menerus untuk melaksanakan walimah nanti dengan syariatNya. Amin!

Berikut adalah satu artikel yang sangat penting mengenai pesanan-pesanan buat bakal pengantin dan juga untuk yang bakal menghadiri walimah rakan2..

Berhati-hatilah semasa memberi puji-pujian kepada sahabat yang berkahwin. Seelok-elok perkataan pada hari perkahwinan sahabat itu bukanlah puji-pujian, tapi doa untuknya supaya perkahwinan sentiasa diberkahi dan diredhai Allah.

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Jendela Hikmah:
Oleh Prof Madya Maznah Daud

SUKA dipuji dan memuji diri sendiri adalah sifat mazmumah yang membuahkan sikap riak. Sebenarnya yang layak dan berhak dipuji hanyalah Allah. Inilah maksud dalam surah al-Fatihah:

"Segala puji hanya untuk Allah, Pencipta dan Penguasa seluruh alam." (Surah al-Fatihah, ayat 2)

Segala yang kita kagum dan takjub semuanya rekaan Allah Yang Maha Bijaksana termasuklah diri dan segala kepakaran serta kebolehan yang ada pada kita. Justeru, di mana letaknya kewajaran dibuai perasaan bangga dan bahagia apabila mendapat pujian yang belum teruji keikhlasannya?

Memuji Allah dengan lafaz "Alhamdulillah" mengandungi pengiktirafan akan Kebesaran, Keagungan, Kesempurnaan zat dan sifat-Nya. Di samping itu, ia juga mengandungi pengertian kesyukuran tulus ikhlas di atas segala nikmat-Nya yang tidak terkira.

Memuji Allah adalah satu ibadat dan Allah sangat suka kepada hamba yang memuji-Nya. Jabir bin Abdullah meriwayatkan bahawa Rasulullah SAW bersabda yang bermaksud:

"Zikir yang paling afdal ialah "LailahaillaAllah" dan doa yang paling afdal ialah "Alhamdulillah". (Hadis riwayat at-Tirmizi)

Anas bin Malik meriwayatkan, Rasulullah SAW bersabda yang bermaksud:

"Di kala Allah menganugerahkan satu nikmat kepada seseorang hamba, lantas hamba itu menerimanya dengan ucapan "Alhamdulillah" maka "Alhamdulillah" yang diucapkan itu lebih baik daripada nikmat yang diterimanya. (Hadis riwayat Ibn Majah)

Daripada Abdullah bin Umar, Rasulullah SAW bersabda yang bermaksud:

Apabila seseorang hamba berkata, "Wahai Tuhanku, untuk-Mu saja segala pujian yang selayaknya dengan keagungan wajah-Mu dan kebesaran kekuasaan-Mu, dua malaikat terpinga-pinga, tidak tahu apa yang hendak dicatatkan. Lalu kedua-duanya segera menghadap Allah dan berkata: Wahai Tuhan kami, sesungguhnya seorang hamba-Mu mengungkap satu ucapan yang kami tidak mengetahui bagaimana menulis pahalanya. Allah bertanya apakah ungkapan itu sedangkan Dia sudah mengetahuinya. Maka malaikat itu menyebut ungkapan yang didengari. Allah berfirman kepada kedua-duanya: Kalian berdua tulislah apa yang diucapkan oleh hamba-Ku itu. Apabila tiba waktu dia kembali menemui-Ku nanti Aku akan memberinya ganjaran yang sesuai dengan ucapannya itu." (Hadis riwayat Ibn Majah)

Diriwayatkan, Rasulullah SAW mendengar seorang lelaki memuji seorang lelaki lain, lantas Baginda SAW bersabda yang maksudnya:

Malang kamu! Sesungguhnya kamu sudah memotong lehernya! Kemudian Baginda SAW menambah: "Sekiranya seseorang daripada kamu tidak dapat mengelak daripada memuji temannya maka hendaklah dia berkata, saya kira begini, jangan sekali-kali dia menyucikan seseorang mengatasi Allah." (Hadis riwayat al-Bukhari dan Muslim)

Muawiyah berkata bahawa Rasulullah SAW jarang sekali meninggalkan pesanan ini di dalam khutbah Jumaatnya:

"Sesiapa yang Allah kehendaki kebaikan untuknya, diberinya kefahaman yang mendalam mengenai agama. Sesungguhnya harta itu manis lagi menawan. Sesiapa yang mengambilnya dengan cara yang benar, diberkati padanya. Berwaspadalah kamu daripada perangai puji memuji. Sesungguhnya pujian itu adalah sembelihan." (Hadis riwayat Ahmad)

Namun kita perlu bezakan antara memuji (ada udang sebalik batu) dengan memberikan pengiktirafan dan penghargaan. Memberikan pengiktirafan dan penghargaan digalakkan bertujuan memberi galakkan, melebarkan silaturahim dan mengeratkan kasih sayang. Nawaitu perlu dijaga sepanjang waktu.

Kita juga dilarang memuji diri sendiri dan menyebut kebaikan diri. Firman Allah yang bermaksud:

Tidakkah engkau perhatikan (dan merasa pelik wahai Muhammad) kepada orang-orang yang membersihkan (memuji) diri sendiri? (Padahal perkara itu bukan hak manusia) bahkan Allah jugalah yang berhak membersihkan (memuji) sesiapa yang dikehendaki-Nya (menurut aturan syariat-Nya); dan mereka pula tidak akan dianiaya (atau dikurangkan balasan mereka) sedikitpun." (Surah an-Nisaa, ayat 49)

Menurut al-Hasan dan Qatadah, ayat ini mengenai Yahudi dan Nasrani yang mendakwa mereka adalah anak Allah dan kekasih-Nya. Mereka juga berkata:

Tidak sekali-kali akan masuk syurga melainkan orang-orang yang beragama Yahudi atau Nasran. Yang demikian itu hanyalah angan-angan mereka saja. Katakanlah (wahai Muhammad): "Bawalah ke mari keterangan-keterangan yang (membuktikan kebenaran) apa yang kamu katakan itu, jika betul kamu orang-orang yang benar." (Surah al-Baqarah, ayat 111)

Al-Miqdad bin al-Aswad berkata Rasulullah SAW memerintahkan kami supaya menabur pasir ke muka orang yang suka memuji diri. (Hadis riwayat Muslim)

Terkesan dengan tarbiah al-Quran dan Sunnah Rasulullah SAW, Umar bin al-Khattab pernah berkata:

Sesungguhnya perkara yang paling aku takuti menimpa kamu ialah kagum kepada buah fikiran dan diri sendiri. Sesiapa yang mendakwa dia orang yang beriman, maka sebenarnya dia kafir. Dan sesiapa yang mendakwa dia orang yang berilmu, maka sebenarnya dia jahil. Dan sesiapa yang mendakwa dia ahli syurga, maka sebenarnya dia ahli neraka." (Hadis riwayat Ibn Marduwaih)

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